Why Real Relationship Accountability Might Seem Like Asking Way Too Much of Someone
It all begins with an idea.
Let’s be honest; nobody wants to appear high-maintenance when they first start dating someone. And no one wants to run the risk of jeopardizing what looks like it might be a really good thing. At first glance, real accountability can seem like it might entail some highly unattractive aspects if it were taken on. Namely;
1) highly unreasonable or unachievable expectations from a current or potential partner,
2) highly unreasonable or unachievable expectations of a current or potential partner that might push them away,
3) potentially giving a potential partner the impression that one is too demanding or rigid,
4) just more of that pretentious therapeutic relationship mumbo-jumbo and hoo-ha that takes all the fun & sexiness out of everything. (This one is actually true. We thrive on sucking every last drop of what little joy there is to be had out of toxic, effed-up relationships. It’s basically our kink.)
This is totally understandable, but with a little understanding of how the principles of real relationship accountability work, we promise you none of these things will occur. (But while we’re on the subject, having standards of your partner that they understand are essential for them to meet is a heck of a lot less troublesome than hoping your partner will magically rise to a standard you’ve neither quite defined nor conveyed.)
The truth is accountability isn’t about making your current or potential partner jump through hoops, fit into neat little box, or conform to some cookie-cutter shape…it’s about finding a partner who values relationship accountability and is willing to be held to that standard.
For some- particularly those of us who’ve struggled to get real accountability from a partner- insisting, or even just asking for what they want- can feel quite daunting. But accountability isn’t something you force on anyone, it’s something you see if they endorse, something you invite them to experience with you, and finally, something you assess to see if it’s genuine. So if your partner balks at any stage along the way, you’ll know their accountability likely just isn’t compatible with yours.
Remember: requiring and expecting that someone treat you as one who truly loves and values you isn’t an imposition on someone who truly loves and values you because they’d be doing it anyway!
And if they don’t, at the very least you have that understanding far sooner than later and can adjust accordingly given that knowledge.
That’s it!
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It all begins with an idea.
It all begins with an idea. Maybe you want to launch a business. Maybe you want to turn a hobby into something more. Or maybe you have a creative project to share with the world. Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference.
Don’t worry about sounding professional. Sound like you. There are over 1.5 billion websites out there, but your story is what’s going to separate this one from the rest. If you read the words back and don’t hear your own voice in your head, that’s a good sign you still have more work to do.
Be clear, be confident and don’t overthink it. The beauty of your story is that it’s going to continue to evolve and your site can evolve with it. Your goal should be to make it feel right for right now. Later will take care of itself. It always does.
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It all begins with an idea.
It all begins with an idea. Maybe you want to launch a business. Maybe you want to turn a hobby into something more. Or maybe you have a creative project to share with the world. Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference.
Don’t worry about sounding professional. Sound like you. There are over 1.5 billion websites out there, but your story is what’s going to separate this one from the rest. If you read the words back and don’t hear your own voice in your head, that’s a good sign you still have more work to do.
Be clear, be confident and don’t overthink it. The beauty of your story is that it’s going to continue to evolve and your site can evolve with it. Your goal should be to make it feel right for right now. Later will take care of itself. It always does.